Episode 33 – Taking Responsibility for your Actions or Inactions
Where we help hardworking people in the preparedness community to break out of corporate America to live a totally free life.
Comfort is the enemy of growth, and personal growth is the difference between the successful and the unsuccessful.
Did you know that the richest man in the world, Bill Gates, reads 50 books per year. When an up and coming Warren Buffett was beginning his investment career he read between 600 and 1,000 pages per day. The numbers vary, but the people that make the news regularly and are constantly at the top of the success ladder are all avid readers. Many of which have life and/or business coaches.
Some of the most successful sports figures work with personal coaches to increase their skill level and refine their craft. Even once they attain greatness, and I would assume they back off on the coaching it goes the other way. They actually spend more time with coaches to refine their shot, pass or swing.
The reason that these household names work so hard on their craft or skill is because they developed a growth mindset from early on. We never hear about the trials and tribulations of the climb to notoriety. Instead we only hear about the achievements, the size of their bank accounts, the exotic trips and what celebrity they are dating.
You show me a person who is considered to be successful, and I will show you a person who worked like a dog to get where they are. They were hungry, and failure was not an option. They repeatedly got knocked down, but every single one of them knew they were destined for something better and pushed relentlessly until they achieved their next milestone.
Most of which weren’t given anything to help them along the way. The habits they adopted early on, before they had any version of success, are the same habits that they implement today that make them the successes we have all come to know. While the size of the bank account, the lifestyle and people they interact with have changed. In their mind they are still that hard charging 20 something that is scrambling to succeed. Most didn’t get the memo that they “made it”.
When a person gets “comfortable” with their life they stop growing. What I mean by growing is learning a new skill set or adopting a new positive habit that will allow you to move to the next level. Working on creating a positive mental outlook which rewires your belief systems or quiets down that inner voice that tells you why you cannot do something. All of the ultra successful people that I referenced above knew that as soon as life got comfortable it was time to shake things up. My personal opinion is that if we are not growing as individuals we are not really living.
Justin and I did an episode on Mindset a while back. If you haven’t listened to that episode you should… It was a good one. The link to that episode is in the Show Notes. Mindset Podcast Link: https://profitablepreparedness.com/episode18
In that episode we discussed a lot of scientifically proven traits of the human mind. One of those traits is that the human brain does not like to be wrong. There are things in life that we are certain that we know. There are things that we think we know, and there are other things that we are aware that we do not have the answers to.
That middle portion is where we get into trouble. The things that we think we know are not always factually correct. The human brain, however, does not like to admit being wrong so it will give us false confidence about the accuracy of the information. That area of mindset is such an old, primal part of our overall intellect that it has become very powerful. That is when we justify our beliefs or actions to provide the outcome we hope for.
Have you ever talked to someone who has a belief that conflicts with your own? You may be 100% certain that your view is correct, but they feel the same way. No matter how irrational their belief may be. You know that no amount of talking or persuasion will alter that belief within that person. That doesn’t stop some people, they will beat you over the head with their belief systems even though it is doing no good.
Taking responsibility for your actions, especially negative actions, is not easy. It is painful for anyone to admit they were wrong. Especially when their actions negatively affect another person, and it’s time to own up.
So, if you really want to move your life in a certain direction. If you want a life of true freedom and fulfillment, the first step is to try your best to get an accurate perspective of your current situation.
Maybe you are miserable at your job, maybe you are broke and living paycheck to paycheck every month, maybe you are in an unhealthy relationship or have developed bad habits that are having negative impacts on your emotional or physical health. If you want change you must grow, but before you can start growing you need to identify what life choices got you where you are. By identifying those life choices and making a conscious effort not to repeat them you have begun the rewiring of your mind to move you in the direction that you want to go.
We talk about dreaming a lot. Taking time to envision what your ideal life looks like in as much detail as possible. We have also discussed identifying opportunities or potential setbacks in advance and developing a game plan to overcome any obstacles. We also talk about writing down goals both long term and short term, and making sure those goals follow the S.M.A.R.T. acronym. Specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time bound. Once you have your plan and goals (in writing) you act… Today… Right now. Most will procrastinate, but you will not. You understand that doing today what others won’t will allow you to do in the future what others can’t.
Here is a link to the procrastination episode that we did in case you need help with that. Procrastination episode: https://profitablepreparedness.com/episode17
Crystal and I both have full time jobs that range in the 50 hour per week. We have two kids, one 7 who requires certain types of attention and one 18 who requires a completely different kind of attention. We have a couple of dogs, meals to make, a house to clean and bills to pay.
We took our own advice, and spent some time dreaming and writing down what our perfect life would look like. How we will support ourselves financially, the lessons and skills that we want to build within our children. We identified obstacles, developed a plan and set rock solid goals to navigate us in the right direction. We do not have a lot of extra time throughout the week, but that dream is important enough to us to make the sacrifices today to move us towards that someday.
In addition to all of the responsibilities above, we decided the biggest thing we could do to move the needle towards our goals is to eradicate debt. So, we starting budgeting (growing a new skill set) and started plugging away. In addition, we spend hours every week and hundreds of dollars a year to create, record and edit a podcast. To market our website and to put together worthwhile, not crappy, giveaways to entice people to pay attention to what we are doing.
Crystal and I believe that the best way to get what we want in life is to help others get what they want. If this podcast, this website or any of the materials that we put together help someone push past the obstacles and achieve their goals then it’s worth it for us. Even on rough weeks when the world is coming down on us we still muster the energy to put out a podcast.
And guess what else? In addition to helping you identify your goals and supporting you to achieve them. We also hope that our view on preparedness makes your life a little easier.
We have mentioned before that being prepared takes the power from Murphy’s Law and minimizes stress.
During this past weekend’s winter storm we were supposed to get 6 – 8 inches of snow and 30 – 40 MPH winds. Blizzard conditions.
Most of the snow missed us but the winds did not. Our teenage daughter wanted to drive 25 minutes into town to watch a movie
- Her safety
- Our safety
- First responder safety
Taking it a step further…
We talk about having a deep pantry and preserved food in the freezer. We also discuss having back up water, heat and power sources. In addition, we discuss first aid/OTC meds and developing a plan with your family.
By doing all of these things, we are ready for most natural disasters in our area, pandemics, power outages, etc. We do not have to rely on the public infrastructure (i.e. Red Cross, First responders, etc.) within reason so they can focus their efforts on others who need it.
- We have mentioned before that our #1 goal this year is to tackle 100% of our debt
- We are actively working on our emergency cash fund as well.
- The ultimate goal is to move to our dream property in Colorado.
If we have a catastrophic illness, job loss, stock market crash or crazy inflation rates we are minimally impacted. We are moving towards our dream life while minimizing stress and increasing financial stability for our household.
Example of Inaction:
Most people have the greener grass syndrome. Other people’s lives seem more appealing than our own. At the start of the New Year many people reflect on the previous year and put thought into the changes they would like to make for 2019.
Most of the time, it is just lip service and people do not take any action to move them in the right direction. We all have dozens of excuses why nothing changes, but the responsibility falls solely on our inaction.
- If your goal is to have a healthy romantic relationship for a change start by identifying what went wrong up until now.
- Start putting yourself out there for the right people
- Vary the places you visit or the “pond that you are fishing in”
- Identify what the ideal relationship would look like.
- Be realistic
If you want to move to a beach instead of landlocked/over taxed Illinois then paint a picture (not literally) of what that life would look like.
- Identify obstacles
- Develop a plan to overcome
- Write out goals
- Start doing something about it today
If you want to make a positive impact on your health
- Identify what habits are holding you back
- Replace unhealthy habits with healthy ones
- Realize this is a lifestyle change not a temporary fix
- Understand that starting is hard, but it will get easier
- Find a way to document/celebrate small successes
We are all personally responsible for our successes or failures. It is no one’s fault but our own. Some of us are dealt more difficult hands than others, but if we use that setback as motivation to push through when times get hard than we will eventually get there as long as we do not give up.
The most important thing though… Is just do something about. Most will complain and talk about what they want, but will never take the first step. Just take that first step and you will find yourself in a small group of people to keep growing towards their dreams. You will be one of the few who live a life of true freedom and fulfillment and be surrounded by others who took that first step.
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